No matter your age, you have probably had to make a big decision that would potentially affect your entire life. Undoubtedly, there are moments in life when you feel helpless and disoriented and believe you need help to decide how to proceed.

Those moments are the times when you should not depend on anybody’s advice, because, if anything goes wrong, you always blame those people. Specialists strongly advise that whenever you find yourself at a crossroads, you should make the decision by yourself. Then, the question becomes: How can we know how to make the decision, and which is the best solution?

The answer is won’t be simple for many of us. However, a technique exists that can will have great results if used regularly. It is meditation, and it has been used for centuries. Even in old and famous books, such as the Bible, we are invited to meditate, to discover and fight the evil in us and control our decisions and lives.

How do we begin to meditate? First, we must get away from distractions, because we can’t analyze our deepest feelings and thoughts if we are distracted. Second, we must ask ourselves questions that will help us determine who we really are. The questions should address everyday aspects:

What do you like to do?

When have you been most proud of yourself during your life?

What have you always wanted to do but have never found the time? (You can include anything from visiting friends to going to Antarctica or seeing your dentist.)

What role does money play in your life?

What is most important to you, family life or career?

How much do you depend on others?

If you are concerned about a particular decision, all of the questions should be related to that issue. If you’re simply confused in general, think about the common topics that a person must deal with in life. Don’t forget to write down the answers. Concentrate and be honest. After all, nobody will judge you.

All these questions will help you determine what you want from life. All you must do properly interpret your own replies. To do that, take the time to analyze them thoroughly. With a red pen, mark whatever answers you are proud of. With a black pen, mark the things that don’t make you proud.

Post the list where you can see it several times a day, or post it in several places. You’ll notice that, eventually, even unwillingly, the black things on your list will begin to turn red. Remember to renew the list when most of it has turned red. It is the best way to remain aware of your expectations for life. Good luck.